There are several things you should know

Stars on a review board.
Stars on a review board.
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To the person who gave my podcast a one-star review,

First of all, thanks for giving my podcast a go. My success as a podcaster is only possible because people are willing to spend their time listening to me. Some people enjoy my podcast, some people don’t.

Nearly six years ago, I launched my podcast with barely any experience, a tiny following (basically, my boyfriend, my mum, and my best friend), and very little clue what I was doing. I wasn’t a confident speaker, nor did I like the sound of my voice. …

You need to know about The Spotlight Effect.

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A few weeks ago, my partner Dec and I went bowling with some of our friends. On my very first bowl, I didn’t knock over a single pin. The ball went straight into the gutter, and I felt that moment of shame, thinking, “Everyone is looking at me, and I’m so embarrassed.” But, I took a look around and realized that no one cared. None of the strangers in the bowling alley even looked twice. My friends shrugged and said, “Hey, better luck next time.” And that was that.

But, the previous time I went bowling, I must have been…

A lesson from my failed wedding.

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2020 was the year my fiancé and I planned to get married. At first, I was worried about rain potentially falling on our wedding day. What if we couldn’t get married in the garden without getting saturated? What if no one could hear us saying our vows because of thunder?

And then, a couple of months before the big day, COVID-19 hit. We changed the date. And then again. And again.

We know we’re fortunate to be safe and healthy and that the wedding isn’t important in the big scheme of things.

But it was also a reminder that we…

Hint: he’s finally stopped giving me advice!

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I trudged up the stairs this morning after another disheartening trip to the bathroom. My adult acne had flared up again, and I was holding back tears, trying to appear unbothered. My partner, Dec, took one look at me and asked, “Are you okay?” and I shrugged and replied, “Yeah, I’m just having another bad skin day.”

Now, here’s the best part. He said, “That must be tough. Is there anything I can do to help?” And just like that, he validated how I was feeling and made me feel completely supported. Seems simple, huh?

Wellll…. Let’s just rewind for…

Not everyone gets a second chance.

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I was 18 years old when I survived a serious car accident. It was night time and I was in the back seat of the car. My new boyfriend and his friend were at the front, chatting and listening to music. Up ahead, I saw the bitumen road turned into gravel and I wondered if we were traveling too fast to make the transition safely. Before I could find the courage to speak up, the car hit the gravel.

The driver lost control of the car and we went through a fence and then rolled several times. When I think…

Did someone say itchy acne??

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When I was 14 years old, my doctor recommended that I start taking the contraceptive pill to help manage painful, cystic acne. Over the last few years, I’ve thought seriously about coming off the pill, but I was really nervous about my acne coming back. I read a few books about hormonal health and how to support my skin before and after stopping the pill. I swapped all my skincare and make-up to natural products. I started taking a few supplements to support my skin health. I bought a silk pillowcase. I started drinking more water and eating more vegetables.

Open goals can give you the flexibility you need.

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It’s 2011, and I’m sitting in a Health Behavior class during my psychology degree. I’m learning about SMART goals and how they help people create realistic intentions to potentially increase their chances of success.

“When you set a goal, make sure it’s specific and that you can measure it. Check that it’s achievable and relevant. Add time constraints to the goal, too, so you won’t procrastinate,” said my teacher.

Fast forward to 2021, and I’ve talked about SMART goals. A lot. I’ve helped clients set SMART goals. I’ve done a podcast episode about it. Heck, I’ve even set multiple SMART…

“Dirty” fuel might help you reach your goals, but it probably won’t feel good.

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When was the last time you pushed yourself to achieve an important goal using negative self-talk, like “Stop being lazy — just start already!” or “Everyone is achieving their goals faster than you”?

Oh, just yesterday? Me too!

I sat down at my desk at 9 am to start working on a new podcast episode, and I was struggling with a serious case of “idea overwhelm.” You know, when you have so many ideas that nothing seems good enough? …

It’s time I got these off my chest (and apologized to my siblings)

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As the eldest sibling in my family, I like to think I’m fairly conscientious, responsible, reliable, and organized. However, there are some less admirable traits that first-born children tend to have, too. Being overly controlling and competitive. Struggling to share. Bossing people around. Taking things a little too seriously.

And when I look back on my childhood, I can see how those less admirable traits probably affected my siblings. So, I’m here to apologize. But first, I’d better explain what I need to apologize for.

It’s confession time.

I deliberately gave my siblings the wrong advice about winning Monopoly.

I wouldn’t say I technically cheated, but I definitely fed my siblings…

People think happiness is a goal, and that’s a problem.

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It all started when my partner said, “You’ve been more emotional than usual lately. Is everything okay?” And tears sprung into my eyes because I knew it was true, and honestly, it was such a relief to have it out in the open.

“Yeah, I’ve noticed that, too. I just don’t know why!”

So, I downloaded a mood tracking app to look closer at my moods and potentially find any helpful patterns that might explain my “emotional-ness.” …

Rachael Kable

Published author, coach and host of The Mindful Kind podcast. Bachelor of Psychological Science. Mindfulness and stress management tips at

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